If you're always putting on an act/show because you're afraid of what others MIGHT think of the REAL you, you'll never make true friends or build a solid business.
Be REAL and you'll make great, long lasting friendships as well as grow a strong business.
1 - Understand It
First you have to recognize that regardless of your position, you have influence on the lives of those around you. Sometimes we don't realize the impact we have on others directly or indirectly but recognizing that we do and conducting ourselves accordingly is key.
2 - Be a Person of Integrity and of Values
Let who you say you are be reflected in all that you do. Stay consistent. Don’t take short cuts. Make a stand for your brand and give others an example to follow. Values determine your actions which ultimately determine your influence.
3 - Be Authentic and Transparent
Don’t put on a show. Be real. Be honest. Trust is built that way and trust amplifies influence.
4 - Accept Responsibility
Don’t make excuses. If you are at fault, accept the blame and do it proactively. Being a leader doesn’t mean being perfect. Learn from mistakes and show others the way.
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Thursday, July 8, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
9 Ways To Manage People Who Bother You
They're everywhere....at home....at work...at school. People who just rub you the wrong way.
Lifehack has some very simple tips for dealing with them.
1. You can only change yourself.
When dealing with people, always remember that it’s not about changing others, but about changing yourself. You can try to change others, but you may not succeed doing so. The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you react to it. By changing that, everything else will subsequently change as well.
2. Draw your boundaries.
Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate. Then stick with it. You have your own personal space and it’s your perogative to protect your space. By drawing the boundaries, even if just mentally, you are clearer of the kind of behaviors to expect from others. If you don’t do so, it’s easy for you to be pushed over by others, especially since such people tend not to be conscious of personal boundaries. You’ll wind up shrinking in a corner and feeling miserable, and you wouldn’t want that.
3. Be upfront about where you stand.
If the person has a history of spilling into your personal space, then let him/her know where you stand the next time you communicate. People aren’t mind readers, and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space. Giving the person some indicators will help. If he/she tends to take up a lot of your time, then let him/her know that you have XX minutes at the onstart of the conversation. That way, you are being fair by informing him/her in advance. If you prefer to communicate via email/text/chat/other channels, then let him/her know too.
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Lifehack has some very simple tips for dealing with them.
1. You can only change yourself.
When dealing with people, always remember that it’s not about changing others, but about changing yourself. You can try to change others, but you may not succeed doing so. The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you react to it. By changing that, everything else will subsequently change as well.
2. Draw your boundaries.
Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate. Then stick with it. You have your own personal space and it’s your perogative to protect your space. By drawing the boundaries, even if just mentally, you are clearer of the kind of behaviors to expect from others. If you don’t do so, it’s easy for you to be pushed over by others, especially since such people tend not to be conscious of personal boundaries. You’ll wind up shrinking in a corner and feeling miserable, and you wouldn’t want that.
3. Be upfront about where you stand.
If the person has a history of spilling into your personal space, then let him/her know where you stand the next time you communicate. People aren’t mind readers, and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space. Giving the person some indicators will help. If he/she tends to take up a lot of your time, then let him/her know that you have XX minutes at the onstart of the conversation. That way, you are being fair by informing him/her in advance. If you prefer to communicate via email/text/chat/other channels, then let him/her know too.
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Saturday, June 19, 2010
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
OIL, Cars and The Polution We Cause.
A few days ago after hearing me talk about "the good old days", my granddaughter asked me why we didn't have seat belts in cars when I was a kid. All I could say is: "Nobody had thought of installing them."
Needless to say, she wasn't impressed. It's hard for a 13 year old to understand something that seems like such a simple idea, had eluded us so many years ago.
Now I wonder what she will say to her children when she talks about her "Good old days?"
What will she tell them when they ask: "Why did you keep driving fossil fueled vehicles when you knew they were destroying the air, the water and the planet?"
It's time folks. It's time that we the people took care of our home - Planet Earth!
We will NEVER stop oil companies from drilling for oil or destroying our planet if we continue to believe that politicians will somehow convince them to change their ways.
Lets not be naive. Politicians will never tell oil companies to stop drilling everywhere RIGHT NOW and put their money into wind, solar and renewable fuels like hydrogen and ethanol because they depend on oil money to get elected.
Only when, we the people, let car companies know we will not buy their fossil fueled vehicles will the oil companies change their ways.
Are you ready to do it or will you continue to part of the problem?
Needless to say, she wasn't impressed. It's hard for a 13 year old to understand something that seems like such a simple idea, had eluded us so many years ago.
Now I wonder what she will say to her children when she talks about her "Good old days?"
What will she tell them when they ask: "Why did you keep driving fossil fueled vehicles when you knew they were destroying the air, the water and the planet?"
It's time folks. It's time that we the people took care of our home - Planet Earth!
We will NEVER stop oil companies from drilling for oil or destroying our planet if we continue to believe that politicians will somehow convince them to change their ways.
Lets not be naive. Politicians will never tell oil companies to stop drilling everywhere RIGHT NOW and put their money into wind, solar and renewable fuels like hydrogen and ethanol because they depend on oil money to get elected.
Only when, we the people, let car companies know we will not buy their fossil fueled vehicles will the oil companies change their ways.
Are you ready to do it or will you continue to part of the problem?
Saturday, June 5, 2010
100 Ways To Open Your mind
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I'm a big believer in personal growth. I strive to be a little different today than I was yesterday. If you're of the same mind, you'll find these ideas extremely helpful.
I copied all of them to notepad and read 5 of them three or four times a day. Of course, DOING THEM is what counts.
5. Take A Walk Around an Art Gallery
You might not appreciate art or participate in it but it’s great to see the thoughts of others on canvas. It can give us a tiny glimpse of what goes on in other people’s minds.
14. Read A Book By An Author You Most Avoid
reading books by authors we avoid gives us a chance to take control of our minds and lets us see another side to our thinking. We’ve got to ask why we avoid them in the first place, is it something within us that we are avoiding?
16. Stop Contact With Your Down People
If you have people in your life who constantly drag you down, or are negative all the time, drop them. Honestly drop them from your life, you are not serving them and they are not serving you and they are dragging your thoughts down.
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I'm a big believer in personal growth. I strive to be a little different today than I was yesterday. If you're of the same mind, you'll find these ideas extremely helpful.
I copied all of them to notepad and read 5 of them three or four times a day. Of course, DOING THEM is what counts.
5. Take A Walk Around an Art Gallery
You might not appreciate art or participate in it but it’s great to see the thoughts of others on canvas. It can give us a tiny glimpse of what goes on in other people’s minds.
14. Read A Book By An Author You Most Avoid
reading books by authors we avoid gives us a chance to take control of our minds and lets us see another side to our thinking. We’ve got to ask why we avoid them in the first place, is it something within us that we are avoiding?
16. Stop Contact With Your Down People
If you have people in your life who constantly drag you down, or are negative all the time, drop them. Honestly drop them from your life, you are not serving them and they are not serving you and they are dragging your thoughts down.
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